The Winter Romance

couple playing in the snow

Now, before you all wonder what on earth is going on in my home life that I have a new romance, worry not. The husband and I are still very much together, very much in love and rather content with our little family and lives. *passes around the sick bucket*

No, what I want to talk about is the winter romance. You know what I mean. When winter arrives, we are flooded with romantic images. The couple cuddled up in front of the log fire. The children playing in the snow. The winter walks wrapped up in cosy knitwear. Home cooking, baking and crafts galore.

I love the idealism of winter. Who wouldn’t love to spend their evenings on a soft leather sofa in front of a roaring fire with a glass of red wine in hand? What child (or adult for that matter) doesn’t love waking to see soft, white snow in their garden, perfect for sledging or building a snowman?

The trouble is, winter just isn’t like that for me and every year I end up disappointed.

When the temperatures drop as suddenly as they do here in England, it is more than my body can bear. I spend the first week confined to the flat until I can get an appointment with my GP to have my pain relief adjusted once more. Of course, while I am in pain, my mood plummets and our home is not one of happiness that the adverts would have you believe. Then, just as the pain becomes manageable, illnesses hit me, because my immune system is shot. Since mid-October I have had flu, chest infection, an abscess, tonsillitis and now I am recovering from a horrendous cold. 

Log fire burning in fireplace with red brick surround

Quite aside from my body letting me down, we do not have a leather sofa or a real fire. We do not drink alcohol and we live in south-west England; the chances of snow are slim and even when we do get it, it tends to be more like grey slush than the lush picturesque stuff of dreams. Whilst I quite enjoy cooking when I can, my attempts at baking and crafting are something left to be desired and the last time I tried to bake brownies (from a packet mix) they failed to rise.

This year, Cheeky Chap wants to craft and he wants to bake so I will try. I hope we don’t fail too much because I have promised some homemade gifts for family this year but I am not expecting miracles and this year I have tried not to surround myself in the idealism of winter, to protect myself from the inevitable disappointment.

Do you find the idea of winter better than the reality? Or are you more realistic than I am?


27 thoughts on “The Winter Romance

  1. I hate winter so have expectations! lol
    I hope you feel better soon & you get some snow! We’re up in the North East just bordering on Scotland so if snow is going to happen we’re usually the first to get it! Brr! x

  2. I think lots of people struggle with winter, and the pain it puts you in makes it even trickier for you. I love it at the beginning, when the crisp days make you feel Christmassy, and you enjoy the stews and soups and the dark nights under blankets by the fire. But once January hits it seems to drag and be all about school runs in the freezing rain – definitely a season of two halves for me!

    1. You make a good point about January; once Christmas and New Year is out of the way, it is pretty miserable. Even February half term doesn’t feel like a proper break because there isn’t a great deal to look forward to in miserable weather!

  3. I totally hear you. I have really bad circulation and really feel the cold. But still I idealise winter and try to think of warm woolly jumpers, hot chocolates by the fire etc….the reality is I spend most of it dreaming of Summer and feeling cold.

  4. Haha! So much of what you say is exactly what I think! How we buy into marketing….every year I wait for those perfect evenings, and if we’re really really lucky, get one or two at best. The rest as you say is colds and grey slush. Loved reading your post 🙂

  5. I love winter for a month or two and then I’m ready for spring. I loved the snow in Switzerland because it was very much picture perfect and fun to play in, but over here, well, we don’t seem to do it quite so well, do we? I do love a nice winter walk along the beach though with a flask full of hot chocolate, and then snuggling under a blanket and watching a film. I think the trick is to keep things simple and achievable and not to set your expectations too high. Good luck with the baking and crafting. I still don’t enjoy it 100 percent with my little ones but they love it.

  6. I like the idea of winter. Sit in front of a log fire and watch the snowflakes. Reality is far from it, though. So I don’t really like winter 🙁

  7. I dread winter. In fact I ruin half of my summer worrying about its inevitable approach. I’m fine if there are bright yet crisp sunny days but I can’t take the dull miserable damp dark days. I am miserable and I don’t like myself.

    Good luck and I how you feel better soon x

  8. I always dream about the snow, then it arrives and I hate it. My son is the same, he goes out in it for about two minutes, after all the excitement and then comes straight back in again. I don’t like the cold as my fingers and toes turn purple and hurt due to bad circulation. Sorry to hear that you have been ill. We do love the crafts, baking and snuggling on the sofa though. I think as long as the kids are having fun, it doesn’t matter whether the baking and crafts are perfect.

  9. I love open fires and all the wintery dream thoughts of it too. But I also lived in it with five feet of snow every year my whole life. It can get not so dreamy and amazing but cold and horrible to live in for those winter months. lol But I do love the romance of it all too. I am such a softy. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again next week. Happy Holidays #sharewithme

  10. I remember my mums health deteriorating during the winter and getting her down. I do like the lead up to Christmas, as Autumn gives way to the WInter and of course Christmas time is magical but without the snow it’s not very pretty is it?

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